give reasons why women should be blamed for sexual harassment in the workplace and evidence to support your claim. *info needed for school debate so please be concise and accurate

Why are women so hostile towards each other?
So we had this cute new girl join our firm this past month. I and the other guys have noticed a lot of hostility towards her by the other girls in the office. When we go out to lunch, she eats with us, 3 or 4 guys, instead of the other girls. She’s also been rudely cut off while speaking by the other women during meetings. They go out of their way to make her feel unwelcome. I don’t get why women are so threatened by a pretty, smart girl in the workplace of all places ? I mean its not like we’re banging each other that the girls should be defending their turf or something. I don’t get it

I was wondering how a guy like me could flirt with a particular lady in the workplace, appropriately and of course not crossing into sexual harassment?
I am a bad flirter and shy so I need specific details on what to do!

Is there a name for anything worse than having too much favoritism in the workplace? I mean when 60% of the workplace employees are all related to each other. I have been told that this is not nepotism because it is not a government employer-it is also NOT a family business. It is a corporation. There is no union and no parent (umbrella corporation) so when incidents arise those caught up are allowed to weasel through and “get by” without writeups. 50% of the employees OBSTRUCT those working diligently and the other 50% (those not related) are always having to re-prove themselves (regardless of how many years on the job). When the subject of HIRING FROM THE OUTSIDE comes up people start getting hostile-all the way up the ladder from the bottom. It also amazes me when questions about favoritism are posted how many respond by saying to “..get a job somewhere else”. WRONG!! That’s a cop out and an excuse.Do not respond with sarcasm or you will be reported for abuse
OK. How do sexual harassment and rape play into this kind of work environment?

I’m a small company, 3 women, 50 men. The two other ladies are related to some of the workers, and have been working here longer than me. I’m 6 months into the job, I’ve been sized up and told to high heels on so my legs would look longer. I’ve been smelled and told don’t put and perfume on cause my natural body odor turn ‘them” on. There’s pornography on a computer in my work area, the screen saver is topless women, so is the backgroung.

I’ve worked at my job since I was 16. I’m now 21 and for the past 5 years, every summer and winter break until recently; I’ve been employed at Qdoba Mexican Grill, as a basic lineperson. I obtained the job due to nepotism, my father owns the local franchise. It was due to this that I was and never could be fired, and indeed I was not. I worked hard and presume I preformed well; although I can not confirm this as I has received a performance review with ANY manager, ever. The reason I quit is that at the my current location, and, in reality every location ever since originally employment. I have been treated as unnecessary burden by the managers and disliked and disrespected by the crew. Although nearly every manager, but one, treated me with a superficially kindness as I grew older the attitude they showed me began to become suspect. If I made a mistake they weren’t concerned and my every wish for more or less hours was granted. I believe this may be the reason that I never stayed at the same restraunt for more than a few months. I think that I was viewed as a brief, and seasonal burden. The staff was, as in most restraunts, were a gaggle of teenage girls and immature ‘dudes’. These individuals as well disliked me-all of them. This is an unfortunate and seemingly systematic problem of mine. The female employees viewed me as creepy while the males as a dork. As well I was refused entry to the workplace social life, everyone else going somewhere or doing something together, and me left to my own friends who weren’t involved with my job. Over time the managers seemed to take part in this, on some levels encourage this maltreatment. Never the less I took my emotionalbludgeoningl for exchanger I was promised a secure job along with a paycheck. All of this was, of course, behind the scenes. As I would stand preforming some task I would overhear conversations among the managers or the staff in which I was described as an ‘idiot’ or a homosexual (I’m not), or a creep…ect. This recently reached the breaking point, I didn’t storm out or create an embarrassing scene; I informed my father, who I had previously been keeping this from; of my situation. At which point I was allowed to quit. Either way, I’m not sure of what to do about the situation. I’m sure many people hate there job, but if it involves a hostile work environment; isn’t that on a different level than say, bad hours, or low pay? I guess why I asked this is that: I’m not sure how to feel, on one hand I’m elated and on the other I’m terrified at the prospect of unemployment and worried that where ever I go it will be as bad or worse than where I left. If you were in my situation, what would you have done?
Thanks in advance, sorry it was sooo long!

I was to leave my job on 09/28/07 and gave my place of employment notice.Iwas working with the office manager because she is in charge of payroll to finalize the disbursement of profit sharing plan. There were some glitches because my husband lives in Mexico and I here in the U.S. and I needed to get my husband to sign and notarize documents. I came into the office late one day after a dr’s appt and my immediate supervisor had my documents on her desk and told me in a hostile tone that my husband needed to the US Embassy in Mexico City and have the documents notarized. I believe that she had no right to stick her nose in my personal business.My department complained to the office manager that she had created a hostile work environment.The office manager then spoke to the owner. My supervisor then met with my department and said that the owner told her “not to listen to us.” So nothing was ever done. I was offended that she stuck her nose in my personal information that I quit.

What if it is a neighbor or ect… what do you file? What happens?
What would you do if you felt threatend by someone and lived in an isolated area?
Let me try to make this question a little more clear. What can my firend do if someone trys to rape her and she is tired of dealing with it? Shoot him?
I sure as hell will not forgive the piece of crap.

There has been quite a bit of drama at my workplace but to make a long story quite short, one person in particular has been quite hostile to me and only me.
She seems to be liked by everyone else, but she’s only civil to me when other people are watching.
I’m afraid that since everyone else likes her, they will get mad at me for telling my boss (or HR) what is going on? How can I avoid making a bigger problem for myself and others?

I have worked for a MAJOR company for just under a year. Since I started I have dealt with workplace harassment. It started out with a sort of workplace bullying and with each passing day it progressively got worse and worse. I have taken notes from day 1 about the things going on. Besides the obvious third party sexual harassment, work place bullying, and unprofessional behavior there has been several violations of the law and of the company code of conduct. I made several report inside my office to all levels of management; first my immediate supervisor then her supervisor and then her supervisor…nothing was done. Finally I reported it to HR and the next day I received a threat from one of the employees via internet communication (the threat was made during working hours I was off work that day but the employee who threatened me was not). I did a screen print and saved it to a word document (I doubled clicked on my lap top clock to pop up the clock in the screen before I did the screen print to show the time and date of the screen print).

I have been in and out of the doctor because of this. My doctor diagnosed me with anxiety and depression as a result of this. My weight has yo-yo’ed, I have constant headaches and nausea, I get shaky, I just burst into tears over the slightest things (I started crying over a Rice Crispy commercial) and I’m not an emotional person at all and no I’m not pregnant.

HR refused to relocate me to a different office (there are 16 offices in the county I work in) during the investigation. I told them I feared for my saftey due to the threats and they said they cannot relocate me because if they did it for me they could do it for anyone and as of right now all I have are allegations. I told them I had notes, proof of conversations, proof of the threat; they still said if you don’t go to work you will be fired. I talked to my doctor and he agrees my symptoms are due to stress from this whole ongoing harassment and situation. So he put me on temporary disability.

Well my last paycheck was only 75% of my normal salary. Turns out my “coding” was changed to part time the day after I reported the harassment and when I called to find out about my pay they also told me “oh also as a part time employee you aren’t eligible for short term disability pay”. They also told me my manager has to open a claim to get me back pay for the hours I worked and didn’t get paid. I asked my manager to open a claim but she didn’t and now she is on vacation.

All I wanted was to be able to go to work and do my job without being harassed and now all these problems have started…what am I supposed to do? I can’t afford an attorney I’m not getting paid at the moment!

To summarize:
They violated the whistleblower confidentiality
They changed me from a full time status to part time status without consent or even notification so they don’t have to pay me short term disability
They are making me pay out of pocket for my medical bills as apart of my disability claim (they are not allowing me to use my insurance)
They are not protecting me under the whistleblower law
They aren’t paying me for hours worked